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Fri, 05 Sep 2008 |
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| Dating Tips: Adding Touch to Your Stories | |||||
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This is now the third part of the storytelling
technique.
And what I am about to share with you is a very powerful technique and it ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life. This technique is adding TOUCH to your stories. As an example of this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)." This really helps paint the picture of your story and get your audience more involved. Only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story. If you are using something like the arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm. An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me). The key for you not to look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction. Another fun thing to sprinkle into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability. These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging. Now you don't need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories. These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out. In my story, I do often mentioning other women. And you can try this and you can change it to "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines. This have to be subtle and never be the focused of your story. To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't give an explanation for it, instead go on with your story, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal. Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over. Cross off all unnecessary content and make sure your story is moving along and does not dies out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story. Be sure to eliminate redundancies. For now...you just have to aim for about 2 minutes stories. How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. A masterful storyteller could capture the audience attention for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes. Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention and for you to look for clues of people fading out so that you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line. Looking back at the original example of... "So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home." So here is the FINAL revised version of my story. Enjoy: Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!" Group: "blah blah" Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience) So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible. (Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! (Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages) It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful) There you see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story. Before I make a conclusion....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips. -If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life. -Always be painting a picture, appeal to all the senses when possible. -Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience. -The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up. -Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories. -Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator. -Lastly and most important to sum things up.... Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience. Make sure they are always getting involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game. |
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Tue, 02 Sep 2008 |
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| Does Your Woman Know that You are for Real | |||||
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There are two questions I'd like to ask of you:
First, how do you let your woman know that the vibe you're putting off in the beginning is the real you? The other one is, How does she know that after she spent a night in bed with you all of what you said will be backed up? “Credibility” is the answer to these questions. Credibility is the key component if you want to sleep with a girl quickly. Most of men think they don't have enough value, due to lack of credibility. In fact, most of the tactics they used in creating value only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe. "Player vibe" is a mistake in building and maintaining credibility. Aside from credibility the other component is sexual tension. And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension before they sleep with a guy and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?) So let's get down to it: There are three levels of credibility. 1. Safety 2. Commonality 3. Direction Safety: Its the most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you. Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you. Direction: You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you. A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING -> We must realize that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. We all do have our own social programmed. It's not really a bad thing. On the contrary, it's very useful. Men have an instinct of wanting to sleep with as many women as possible, on the other side women have instinct to choose guys who has demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to provide a home and raise their children. And this instinct is reinforced by social programming. Realize and understand that a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming. Her programming is her reality and her world. And credibility is about showing you understand her world. At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman. It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview. But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview. The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing a woman's feelings or views about the world, as if it's your own. HERE'S AN EXAMPLE -> You are comfortably sitting in a chair in your bedroom. And then a guy came in. And telling you he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the sit on where you were sitting. And asked if he could urinate in the corner. That's pretty annoying, right? You might even think he's crazy. He's "in his own world".He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. And I bet you wouldn't trust a guy like that. Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand and respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance. This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility. If she thinks that it's a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (most women do) -> You should also show her a believe that it's bad for people to kiss and tell. Having the same perceptions about the world as her will vastly build your credibility. You can use of the three levels in this way: Safety - It's safe to have you in her world. Commonality - You see things in common to her world. Having same perceptions, values, and goals Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and influence her world. These are best demonstrated in order. Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world. That's when you know you get this thing. And you can get really good at this. At first you will just be remembering things she's said in the past, and then repeating it after she's forgotten she's said anything. If someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection. She thinks "He's just like me!" This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many messes it. Once you'll get to this major piece, you'll see your game will improve vastly. |
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Thu, 28 Aug 2008 |
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| A Successful Way to Attract and Pick-Up Women | |||||
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One of the dominant thing in an interaction with a
woman is sexual tension.
Sexual tension is the energy or charge of an interaction. Its application is subtle but powerful and effective. There are many different concepts of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community. Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure definition of sexual tension because it is grounded in real sexual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the woman. Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy”, “you hot” to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts in a woman’s mind. Controlled Sexual Arousal State Sexual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sexual interest. In a right time, I create sexual tension by focusing my sexual desire on my woman, but not doing any overt sexual advances. I maintain a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, directing her mind toward sexual imagination. My state is transferred to her, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques. How to have a controlled arousal state It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sexually aroused. (State control is not only vital in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”) The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to women. Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help. Creating Tension For the “getting turned on” part, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, regular sex. You already know how to get aroused. During your interactions with women, simply focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain. There are two reasons why a sexually aroused state is so important. First, women love sex. A sexual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women. The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood? Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself. How do you feel around someone when they are nervous? You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was obviously very horny and sexually aroused, but you weren’t doing anything sexual. You probably got excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other. State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage. The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information. These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sexual tension, we enter a sexual state, but don’t verbalize our desire. If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated. That isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.” Another key point about verbalizing sexual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading to sex. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you. Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. When is the chest more interesting? True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere. But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention. Once you have mastered that concept, you're well on your way. Vin DiCarlo |
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Tue, 26 Aug 2008 |
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| Tips on How to Captivate a Woman Through Storytelling | |||||
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This is now the "Part II" of the storytelling
techniques newsletter.
Now that you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics! In "Part I" we've learned about why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game. And in “Part I” there were two things I asked of you. One was to write down 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you. So to start with, lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, cross off ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories. Now that you got 5 solid ideas, reflect on these and select which ones do you have the most emotional connection, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience. From that 5 solid ideas let's focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately. For now, your main target with these stories are women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys) Also feel free to ask your friends about which subjects story they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts. And of course I'm sure that there were some of you here that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier. As I promise I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will be time consuming so we are just going to use and focus on one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you. Now I am going to try to give you all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example) "So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and as I roam around making new friends and having some fun. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home." Okay, pretty annoying story...I know, but we can turn this into something awesome. First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story. The first component, is "The Hook Question" The purpose of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved. You use the hook question to captivate the group's attention and the hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story. When using the hook question before you start going into the story, Make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away. Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story. There are two different types of hook questions. One is an open ended hook question and the other one is a yes or no hook question. I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story. So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?" A possible yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?" So let's add this to the story... (Find a hook question for your example stories as well) I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!" Group: "blah blah" Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story) Now that you have the hook question down, we will now go to the next step... The next component is to demonstrate personality. There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can. My 5 things were: I have a good sense of humor I have a high and fun energy I am a very social person I am a musician I am interested in video and photography Now try to fit at least 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself. Acting out your characters is another way to convey personality. Bring that character of yours into life in your stories. Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension. You should always have tension build up to excitement or else your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution. But the last component of a story that I will get into shortly will help a lot about this. Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience. So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality... Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!" Group: "blah blah" Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social). Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.) So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion). Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again. As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends. The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more... The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending. To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up. The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left. Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction. So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night. Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY" So the updated story with the new punch line now goes: Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!" Group: "blah blah" Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over) But there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday. This is about creating check in points. This is one of the secret little tips of successful storyteller. Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved. Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?" Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question. Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)." You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end. If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus. An example in a passage of my story would be: "Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)." You don't always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience. Now if you have done these three components to your stories plus the added tips, you got some great stuff on your hands. |
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Wed, 20 Aug 2008 |
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| Letting a Girl Know that You are for Real | |||||
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How do you let a woman know that the vibe you're
putting off in the beginning is the real you?
How does a woman know that after you slept with her all of what you said will be backed up? These questions have the same answer... "CREDIBILITY". Able to create credibility is one of the main components in sleeping with a girl quickly. Most guys think they don't have enough value, 90% of their time, they lack credibility. In fact, these days most of everything used in creating value only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe. (and just to let anyone KNOWS I don't even teach value. Not for a damn second!) "Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility. Creating a sexual tension is another component. And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?) So let's get down to it: There are three levels of credibility. 1. Safety 2. Commonality 3. Direction Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before you can make woman sleep with you. Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you. Direction: You need to show direction in order that the woman you desire will leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you. You can think of the three levels in this way: Safety - It's safe to have you in her world. Commonality - You have a common things in her world. You have the same perceptions, values, and goals. Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and modify the realm of a woman. These are best demonstrated in order and you can get really good at this. At first, you might usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman. It's because men naturally understands a certain type of world view. But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's world view. The best way of doing this is by anticipating the thoughts and verbalizing a woman's feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own. At first you will just be remembering things she's said in the past, and then repeating it after she had forgotten what she said. Then you will get good at pacing woman's reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand woman's reality. Then a woman will trust you and allow you to change something for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world. A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING You have to realize that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you have social programming. We all do. It's not really a bad thing. In fact, it's very useful. Although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect a woman to realize that. Men have an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible while women have an instinct to choose men who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to raise children. These instinct is reinforced by social programming. Woman's programming is her reality and literally her world. And credibility is about showing you understand her world. HERE'S AN EXAMPLE -> Think about if you were comfortably warm sitting in a chair in your bedroom. . Then a guy came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner. You would feel very annoyed with him. You might even think he's crazy. He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world". Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand your world, and doesn't respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance. And wouldn't trust a guy like that. This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility. If she thinks that it's a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for people to kiss and tell. If you have the same perceptions about the world as her, it will build your credibility immensely. That's when you know you get this thing. When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection. She thinks "He's just like me!" This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up. It's a major piece and you'll watch your game improve dramatically once you get this. |
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