Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.

But I had my brain up my butt.

... that may sounds a little harsh.

But it comes to TWO different problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I just accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But...

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?

It's all are the same.

Self-acceptance is what really matters.

A woman won't accept you if you don't accept yourself.

Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don't like yourself?

She will HATE your presence and don't want to be around you.

Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.

And I am one of them.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after "mating", after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not separate from your game.

Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.

You might be thinking "But I'm insecure, nervous and awkward." I disagree. That's not you.

That is the distorted you.

That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I wasn't aware of shaping.

Shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. You can't shape if you don't know what you want. The extension of self-acceptance is knowing what you want.

In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.

As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you come to a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.

Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I've developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.