Dating can be your best pal.

...OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, "He thinks with his... You know."

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally faced is balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of time. If you don't know what you're doing, women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling... there's nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU

DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, and so do women.

In fact, it's their NATURE to take up a man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way there's less chance of you leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I know it wasn't about "money," or "control over my life," or "lots of my free time."

It was probably something like "feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."

There are two ways that I think why men have problems with how they use their time with women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they

REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.

Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's a LIE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.

Young men are taught that their urges is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's a syndrome that I call a "doofus dad" syndrome. There's another societal factor going on, . In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of the women is more valuable than men because of the perception that women are "better."

You will feel obligated to give a woman a LOT OF TIME if your time is not so valuable.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a woman too much time, you won't be present for most of that time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I'm only giving a smaller amounts of my time.

Not only did this make our time better, it created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

Now my women can't get enough of me - in fact, I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

You see, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl - and don't spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals.

Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that you are able to meet a lot of women, which

I'll have to cover in another newsletter.

It makes me sad to see men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" women, and then they are buried in their coffin ALONE.

Women aren't property that you can keep or somehow take with you when you die. Think about that.

You can't "keep" a woman by investing all your time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being honest with the amount of time you are willing give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just means that you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will usually from the social norm.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the values others try to impose onto you, you will most likely experience some discomfort, tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction Code . It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.

And no, we don't try to impose our values or goals onto you. We think you'll be able to do that for yourself, given the proper guidance.


Vin